I’m sitting here with my husband while waiting for my children to arrive back home after a day in DC with their dad. One of my Spotlight 2011 Sisters fromHolistic MBA posted an interesting question tonight. She asked what our “Inner Aphrodite” (the goddess within) would do if we knew we couldn’t fail. Here’s how I responded:
I’ve so enjoyed my time with family this week/weekend, did lots of (healthy) cooking, eating, entertaining and just “being” with my self and my loved ones. We went around the Thanksgiving table offering words of gratitude reflecting our individual thoughts and experiences over the last year.
One of the thoughts I shared with my family was how over the past year I subtly shifted and how grateful I was for the time and space to have been blessed with to do so. I ‘m not exactly sure how I got here, but I think it had something to do with intention…authentic intention. For many years I carried with me fear. Fear of looking bad, being dumb, not being good enough and all the limiting beliefs one can have about herself. I’d taken many risks in my life both in business and otherwise, but always had this huge fear of being in the public eye and making a large impact. I see a private coach once a month and he totally turmed me around…..He said the following to me one day…he said, “Debbie, life is hopeless, but it’s not serious.” At first I took offense to it…because I always believed in hope and faith…but as I continued seeing him..his message became more and more clear. I needed to play more. I needed to give myself the permission to be imperfect. I needed to give myself permission to fail…and finally, the space to laugh at myself more. Once that light went on for me….I was able to transform the energy I felt and defined as fear, into joy and excitement.
The hopelessness is about the stories we tell ourselves, the voices that come up just before (for example) we’re presenting, taking a test, or meeting people for the very first time. They will always be there to challenge us…its hopeless to think that they will ever go away. But they aren’t serious…and we need to put them in their place. We need to stop them in their tracks or they will continue to gnaw at us. Its just like the sugar beast that lives inside us…the more it craves sugar and the more we feed it, the larger it gets…
So, I no longer feed that sabatoging voice by giving it power. I do acknowledge it’s presence but I don’t feed it by believing it any longer. I actually laugh at it..and don’t take it seriously. It reminds me that I’m human, that I err..and that what I’m up to, has nothing to do with me. I am just the messenger.
So, to answer your question….my inner Aphrodite lives and thrives. She’s fun and joyful, filled with the wonder of a child and is easy on herself. She has the intention to change lives in time by being the change and a constant evolution. I dont know what my business will look like in a year from know..but I’m clear of my intentions and open to the journey of endless possibilities. I feel like I have already arrived and am dancing on the hill.
We all have. We just need to recognize it.
With love and gratitude,